My past is filled with plenty of adversity: loss of loved ones, fear of abandonment, afraid to fail in life and business, depression, fear of dying young, etc. I could go on, but I think you get what I am laying down here.
For most of my life, this adversity defined me. It kept me in a negative mindset for a very long time. When I finally accepting my past experiences it changed everything for me. As I realized my “issues” were not different that many of the people I help every day, it made me a better coach. I was able to relate to my clients’ struggles and guide them accordingly. That first step was vital to helping so many people. We all make mistakes in life.
But before we get to you I want to share a strategy I use with my son and sports. My son is a hard worker, his teammates and friends call him “All Day”, because they say he works hard “All Day Every Day.” But when he plays a sport, he is not perfect. He strikes out in baseball, gets pinned in wrestling, and misses tackles in football. He is not alone. This stuff happens to all the kids from time to time. As we are driving home from his sports, we talk. My first question to him is “Did you have fun playing and hanging out with your teammates” (Yes is always the answer). Next question, “What do you think you did well?” Last question, “What would you like to do better next time?” This is our process to help him learn from his past. Based on his answers to the last question, we come up with a plan of things for him to practice. He wants to get better. I use this strategy with my children in life too.
What is the message to you? By accepting my past, I have the ability to help so many people lead a healthy life. By my son accepting his past, he gets better in his sports. Did you ever mess up at work? Maybe give your kids the wrong advice? We have all done it. You don’t quit your job or stop being a parent.
Leading a healthy life is no different. Simply learn from your past, commit to not making the same mistakes again, and get the results you always wanted. Life is a learning experience. Embrace and accept it! Happiness is soon to follow.
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