Over the weekend I found out that one of my friends from college lost his fight with cancer. He passed away at the age of 41, leaving a wife and 2 sons. This was an emotional weekend. So many of my friends were posting pictures on social media of our time in college (seeing all of us as 20 year olds sure brought back a bunch of memories). We really had some great times. I have a great group of friends. Throughout our lives we have been through our share of adversity and always stick together. We are a band of brothers.
As we were gathered together over the weekend we were sharing stories of our lives together and with our friend Tommy. We laughed a lot! Shed a few tears too! Tommy did things his way. He had a larger than life personality and said whatever he wanted (this, at times, made for an interesting situation). He did not settle.
That is the one thing I kept coming back to all weekend…not settling. I see it too often. It comes up when I am talking to clients about their weight loss struggles. I hear it from people about other aspects of their lives too. Some people do not like their jobs, the relationships they are in, or the person they have become. They settle.
I am a big believer of living your life and enjoying it as much as you can. Now I don’t mean this as being reckless. Actually, I am talking about the complete opposite. You need to take care of yourself. You need to eat right (most of the time) and exercise (some of the time). But you also need to live your life. Love more, laugh more, surround yourself with people that you love being with, and be the best version of yourself.
I am sure you lose sight of these fundamentals from time to time. I get caught up with things that steer me away from this too. But, when I look back on my life I want to be able to say I was an amazing husband, great father, and someone who helped people take back their lives. I want to believe I did the best that I could. I’m sure you do too.
We all know of someone that passed away earlier than they should have. It always seems to be the case that these people knew something that we didn’t…they put a lifetime of experience into a limited number of years. In truth, we don’t know when our time will come. But we owe it to ourselves and those people that love us, to be the best we can be.
Don’t settle. Commit to your excellence.